Happy birthday

Utrecht, 20 February 2007

Lieve Anya, van harte gefeliciteerd met je verjaardag.

My lovely Anya, Happy birthday, wish you have a joyful birthday.

Putriku tersayang Anya, Selamat ulang tahun yang ke-11, semoga Tuhan memberkahimu kebahagiaan, kesehatan, menjadi anak yang baik hati, rajin dan cerdas.

Doa ibu senantiasa menyertaimu.

Matematika Tuhan

Kehidupan dimulai bangun tidur, niatkan perbanyak kebaikan biar hidup lebih berarti.

Syukuri, Nikmati, Jaga, dan Pelihara yang terberi oleh Tuhan

Simak dan Pelajari Matematika Tuhan, karena Dia pengujinya, terima dan biarkan seandainya satu tambah satu tidak sama dengan dua, mungkin hanya waktu dan tempat yang berbeda yang kita sadar kalau penjumlahan Tuhan itu benar yang terpenting kita iklas dan yakin Tuhan pasti adil .

Ubah Pola Pikir dalam bekerja, bahwa kita bekerja bukan untuk orang lain, tapi untuk diri sendiri dan Tuhan, karena accounting Tuhan PASTI Balance, tidak ada rekayasa dan Manipulasi, hanya kadang timbul buah yang berbeda di lain waktu dan tempat

Jangan memanipulasi keadilan dengan “rasa” karena rasa di selimuti “Nafsu”, keadilan ada di satu tangan, yaitu tangan Tuhan.

By: Joko Suharto

Anakmu bukanlah anakmu

Ada artikel menarik di majalah Economist edisi Januari 2008 mengenai hubungan antara ibu dan anak keluarga emigrant. Orang tua yang beremigrasi ke negara maju biasanya melakukan begitu banyak pengorbanan untuk memperoleh kehidupan yang lebih baik daripada di negara asalnya. Mereka biasanya mau bekerja melebihi jam kerja normal untuk mendapatkan upah yang lebih demi kehidupan yang layak dan memberikan pendidikan yang lebih baik untuk anak-anak mereka dengan harapan anak-anak mereka kelak memiliki kehidupan yang mapan.

Namun hal ini sering kali tidak sesuai dengan apa yang diharapkan oleh orang tua. Anak ketika beranjak dewasa memilih jalan hidup mereka sendiri, memilih karir atau pekerjaan yang sama sekali tidak diharapkan bahkan dibayangkan oleh orang tua mereka sebelumnya. Akibatnya adalah kekecewaan pada orang tua. Orang tua merasa bahwa mereka telah begitu banyak berkorban demi masa depan anak-anaknya, tetapi harapan tersebut tidak dipenuhi oleh anak-anak. Konflik antara anak dan orang tua kerap terjadi. Anak merasa bahwa orang tua tidak mau mengerti jiwa mereka, sedangkan orang tua merasa dilecehkan karena tidak dihargai dan dihormati oleh anak-anak.

Tidak pernah ada sekolah untuk belajar bagaimana menjadi orang tua yang baik. Tiap orang tua pada umumnya menjadi tahu (walaupun belum tentu belajar untuk memahami) menjadi orang tua adalah dengan menjalaninya. Kita meyakini bahwa bagaimana orang tua yang baik atau yang buruk adalah seperti etika moral tak tertulis. Menjadi orang tua yang baik memerlukan proses (siklus) pembelajaran yang tiada henti. Bisa belajar dari pengalaman orang lain, dari buku atau dari diri sendiri.

Orang tua yang memahami kehidupan tentunya tidak akan menyesali jalan kehidupan anak-anaknya. Tiap orang, baik kita sendiri, anak, saudara, teman, lawan, penjahat, atau siapa saja, memiliki garis hidup masing-masing. Kita sebagai orang tua berkewajiban untuk mengarahkan anak-anaknya ke jalan yang baik, jalan yang benar. Memberi tahu akibat dan konsekuensi yang mungkin timbul dari tiap jalan yang akan ditempuh, jalan yang baik atau jalan yang buruk. Anak berhak memutuskan jalan yang mana yang akan ditempuh. Hargailah keputusan itu, walaupun itu keputusan anak, seperti kita bisa menghargai keputusan orang lain.

Orang tua supaya tidak terlalu kecewa oleh anak, sebaiknya berkaca pada diri sendiri. Anak bukanlah bagian dari diri kita sendiri, walaupun ada garis darah, tapi anak memiliki pribadinya sendiri. Seperti kata pujangga Khalil Gibran: “anakmu bukanlah anakmu, Tuhan mengasihi anak panah yang meliuk dengan pesat seperti mengasihi busur yang kuat..” Jadi, orang tua bukanlah sang pemanah, dan anak adalah anak panah yang bisa pergi kemana dia suka, walaupun sudah dibidik dengan tepat.

I've learnt

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.

I've learned - that no matter how much I care,
some people just don't care back.

I've learned - that it takes years to build up trust,
and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned - that it's not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned - that you can get by on charm
for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned - that you shouldn't compare
yourself to the best others can do but to the best you can do.

I've learned - that it's not what happens to people
that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned - that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life

I've learned - that no matter how thin you slice it,
there are always two sides.

I've learned - that it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.

I've learned - that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I've learned - that you should always leave loved ones withloving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned - that you can keep going
long after you think you can't.

I've learned - that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I've learned - that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.

I've learned - that regardless of how hot and steamy
a relationship is at first,
the passion fades and there had better be
something else to take its place.

I've learned - that heroes are the people
who do what has to be done when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.

I've learned - that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned - that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned - that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned - that my best friend and I can do anything
or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned - that sometimes the people you expect
to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned - that sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me
the right to be cruel.

I've learned - that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I've learned - that just because someone doesn't love you
the way you want them to doesn't mean
they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned - that maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned _ that you should never tell a child
their dreams are unlikely or outlandish.
Few things are more humiliating, and
what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I've learned - that your family won't always
be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to
can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again.
Families aren't biological.

I've learned - that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned - that it isn't always enough
to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned - that no matter how bad
your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned - that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned - that sometimes when my friends fight,
I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.

I've learned - that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other
And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned - that sometimes you have to put
the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned - that we don't have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.

I've learned - that you shouldn't be so
eager to find out a secret.
It could change your life forever.

I've learned - that two people can look
at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned - that no matter how you try to protect
your children, they will eventually get hurt
and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned - that there are many ways of falling
and staying in love.

I've learned - that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest with themselves
get farther in life.

I've learned - that no matter how many friends you have,
if you are their pillar you will feel lonely
and lost at the times you need them most.

I've learned - that your life can be changed
in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned - that even when you think
you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned - that writing, as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains.

I've learned - that the paradigm we live in
is not all that is offered to us.

I've learned - that credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned - that the people you care most about in life
are taken from you too soon.

I've learned - that it's hard to determine
where to draw the line between being nice and
not hurting people's feelings
and standing up for what you believe.

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't;

If you'd like to win, but think you'll lose, you're lost.

For out in the world we find success begins with a person's faith;

It's all in the state of mind.

Life's battle don't always go to the stronger or faster hand;
They go to the one who trusts in God and always thinks

"I can."

by: Kathy Kane Hansen